“with the Sword that makes the wounded whole” – O Church Arise, hymn
I love being a pastor. Preaching is possibly my favorite hobby, but it’s possible to be a preacher without being a pastor. Leading a church can be exciting, but you can do that without being a pastor. Pastoring is leading people to Christ so that they can become like Him. In the church all our actions should serve this end – our preaching, communities etc. But there is something special about sitting with people, hearing their stories and helping them build their lives upon the Rock of Christ. There is very little on earth that thrills me as much.
One of the the great things about planting a church from scratch is the ability to shape the culture of the church. Since the beginning of RHC I have sought to speak the truth in love to people, pray for them, and show an unending commitment to them that is unwavering despite what they may say or do. I have found these three ingredients to be incredibly effective in the long term for seeing people change.
Prayer
Prayer for the flock and for people’s specific struggles is one of the biggest keys in pastoring obviously. This moves the heart of God and also (maybe even more importantly) prepares our heart for when we speak to them. Until you have prayed for people it’s hard to know whether what you will say really will be ‘in love’. Somehow through prayer we catch the heart of God for His people. What a privilege!
Then we have to speak the truth in love. For years I could not do this, because I was governed by a fear of man instead of the fear of God. Although I knew what I should say to people, I simply did not have the courage. I was healed by understanding that we are all leveled at the foot of the cross, that only the truth will set people free, and that in order to really be a servant of men I had to first and primarily be a servant of God.
Speaking the truth in love
Speaking the truth in love is very difficult. The Word of God is a sword that makes the wounded whole. There is a way of speaking truth that retains the hard edge of the sword with the soft hands of the swordsman. It’s far more than just saying that the underlying motive for speaking the truth is love. We can all say that. Speaking the truth in love is the ability to do it in a way that makes the person who hears it realize that this is not a personal agenda or other organizational decision, but that makes them realize that it is love indeed that is motivating it.
This doesn’t mean that they will respond immediately. They can be defensive, angry, antagonistic, etc. They often are. But deep down they know that these words weren’t read out of a manual somewhere. They are said with conviction, compassion, with love.
Consistency
Many people can have burst of courage to speak the truth, or moments when it’s said in love. But I have found that consistency with people over months and years is what convinces them in the long term that our love is genuine and our motive is pure. As pastors we have to hold the line of truth, never wavering. But at the same time we have to relentlessly pursue the one lost sheep, sometimes neglecting the 99 to go after that one. Some people have doubted our love for them, thinking they would be discarded for not conforming. But somehow when we continually go after people, follow up, love them all while never shifting our position on truth at all, they finally realize that God is working through for their joy.
Paul said that his joy and crown were the people he laboured over (1 Thess 2.20)t. John says “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth” (3 John 3).
The Hope we Have
Ultimately, the hope we have for those we shepherd as well as our our hearts is deeper than our efforts on any of these levels (though they contribute greatly). The ultimate hope we all have is that “He who began a good work in [us, you] will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ” (Phil 1.6)